Victorious Heart Inc. ca

Ritual Abuse Survivor and Author of: "UNLOCKING BURIED SECRETS" & "UNLOCKING BURIED SECRETS #2: Healing From Satanic Ritual Abuse Workbook for Male & Female Survivors"

If you know a survivor of SRA is going through a difficult time, and youre afraid of making it worse, dont quite understand their depth of emotions... 

What do you say?

I care
Im here to listen
What can I do?
I know youre going through a tough time
I am here

And just allow the survivor to sit in silence, talk, or they might say something funny and joke from the stress of everything. Humor is healing.

Some things to concider...

Dont try to silence the survivor when they need to talk (about something they are struggling with) by changing the subject, telling them to look on the bright side or ignoring what was said. Very likely the survivor doesnt have a supportive family, so being able to confide in friends is important. Think of how you would like to be treated if you needed to talk about something youre struggling with.

The survivor is trying very hard to cope

The survivor is not perfect

The survivor wants to heal

The survivor is working hard to be positive

Healing from this kind of abuse is not easy

Unless you have undergone torture/ brainwashing/ mind control...its hard to understand how tough it is 

The survivor pushes down their sadness/ triggers to be able to work/ get through life 

When you know its a difficult date for the survivor see how they are doing. 

The survivor can rise above sadness, it just takes time. Know that your words of advice are taken to heart.

To the Survivor:

Listen to the person in your life who is trying to help

Try to incorporate a different way of looking at things/ dealing with things

Try not to issolate

Do things that make you happy

Try new things

Make an effort each day to live in the moment and find joy in the little things

Most of all believe you can overcome the difficult times. Because you can.