Victorious Heart Inc. ca

Ritual Abuse Survivor and Author of: "UNLOCKING BURIED SECRETS" & "UNLOCKING BURIED SECRETS #2: Healing From Satanic Ritual Abuse Workbook for Male & Female Survivors"

Prostitution, human trafficking and sex trades:


I recently watched a documentary on the Showcase Channel ('Very Young Girls') on prostitution, the sex trade industry, and child sexual abuse...the documentary was very informing and is very important to see for those in society that think that paying for sex if you are single or otherwise is no big is a big deal...and its sad..."Girls Educational & Mentoring Services" (GEMS) is a wonderful site that is focused on helping girls that are victims of sexual abuse get out of the life of prostitution and the sex trade industry. Here is the link to watch the trailer of 'Very Young Girls'.

Trailer: Very Young Girls:

I hope many people watch this documentary. The young girls/adolescents are very honest about what their experiences have been like working in the sex trade industry and it is truly heartbreaking but so important for society to see. It is also very important for society to realise that most of the girls start at age 13 and a lot of the time the girls look a lot older.


The International Violence Against Women Act: What Are We Waiting For? by 
Patricia T. Morris 10/13/09
by the Women's International  Perspective
describes abuse

"...According to the United Nations at  least one in three women and girls
around the world is beaten or sexually abused  in her lifetime and some four
million women and girls are trafficked annually  into forced marriage,
prostitution, or slavery. At least 60 million girls who  would otherwise be alive
are missing, mostly in Asia, as a result of  sex-selective abortions,
infanticide, or neglect. According to the World Health  Organization, between
10-52% of women report having been assaulted by an  intimate partner. The UNFPA
estimates that 130 million girls and women around  the world have undergone
female genital cutting (FGC) and at least 2 million  girls every year -
nearly 6,000 per day - are at risk of undergoing FGC. Despite  increased public
awareness and two recent UN Security Council Resolutions (1820  and 1888),
rape is increasingly used as a weapon of war in armed conflicts. The  UN
reports that during the Rwanda genocide between 200,000 and 500,000 women  were
raped, and in Bosnia during the conflict there between 20,000 and 50,000 
women were raped."  


Sexual abuse of children, child prostitution (as the average age of a prostitute on the streets is age 13) and child porn is illegal and has to stop. Child prostitution and child pornography is a central part of ritual abuse and a lot of ritual abuse survivors (if not all) have been subjected to this. Most cult victims/ survivors have never seen a dime of the money that was made off of their exploitation. The cult perpetrators (just like the pimps on the street) are the ones that retain all of the money. This is heartbreaking as children as young as toddlers and even infants have been subjected to this kind of abuse within the cult setting. Because of this I am very sensitive re: the porn industry and I am totally against it in every way.

I know how it feels to be a victim/ how it feels to be forced into this way of life and see none of the money that is exchanging hands. The girls that end up on the streets prostituting, dancing in strip clubs, or working as escorts are mostly victims of some sort of sexual violence, usually within their own family (incest). I think it is insensitive and self serving to believe that these girls "enjoy" what they are doing and are just " happy and out going" . I feel that this way of thinking is very ignorant. I think society needs to be educated in this area. If they could just see that this girl is someone's daughter, sister, mother etc, maybe there would be some remorse. I am a huge activist for women/ girls who have encountered sexual violence in their lives. I believe 100%  that most of the girls out working the streets, strip clubs etc are sexual abuse survivors. I myself contimplated living on the streets as a prostitute at  15-16 yrs of age because I was desperate to get out of my abusive home and I had no where else to go. I didnt care, anything was better than my home life. Thankfully my boyfriends family took me in when I was 16.  I also contimplated becoming a stripper in my early 20's out of desperation to make money, believing sex was all I was good for. Thankfully I was able to stay away from this way of life that I could have easily fell into because of my abusive upbringing. I am so grateful that I was able to recognize my destructive thinking (thinking that sex was all I was good for) and luckily I realized that I had another choice. Many girls go down this path because of the abuse that they have suffered growing up feeling that they have no other option.

I feel it is very important to mention an emotional response to trauma known as 'Stockholm Syndrome'. Stockholm Syndrome is a psychological response where the victim feels and shows loyalty to their abuser. The victim becomes emotionally attached and will even defend the abuser after being rescued. Young girls/victims/ survivors attach themselves to their abusers and they develop an emotional dependancy or love attachment. This happens often with the young girls working as prostitutes and it can make leaving the world of prostitution even more difficult and complex for these girls. This emotional response to trauma is very common in all victims of abuse as well as survivors of sexual and ritual abuse.

 I want to stress that boys are also victims of child sexual abuse, child trafficking, child pornography and prostitution. I am an activist for boys/ men as well and I feel very passionate about raising awareness on these awful crimes committed against children.

Human trafficking is a serious global issue and is prevelent within the cult setting. This is one major way that the cult aquires its victims for such purposes as child rape and torture, child prostitution, and disposable victims for their rituals. The cult has a lot of connections to the black market and the underground world. A lot of money exchanges hands high up in the cult mostly from the exploitation of its victims.

Here is the link to my page on (I have recently written an article on human trafficking) Just click on 'Articles' at the top of my Helium page and you will see all of my articles and you can click on Human Trafficking.

We all have a purpose in life. I do not believe that anyone's purpose is to be used and abused, bought or sold.

I am watching the Ricki Lake Show  (  ) and today's topic is on survivors of child sexual abuse. Please click on the link below.

I watched the Katie Show today   (  ) and her topic was  "The War On Human Trafficking".  I am so grateful that she chose to air this topic so the world will know what is taking place. It takes people like her in the public eye to get important, global issues like this out so that society begins to see the real issues that are happening day to day so that maybe someday these horrific crimes will stop, and the perpetrators will be held accountable. This is my wish. Below is a link to read, view the information on today's show.    (Sorry, you will have to cut and paste link into your browser)

Human Trafficking Video:   (You will have to cut and paste)

National Human Trafficking Resource:


(*I will be adding more information on this subject over time as I feel this is a very important subject to address when dealing with ritual and sexual abuse.)


Information on child trafficking:

Polaris Project: Combating Human Trafficking & More...

Trailer: Child Prostitution:

Children Forced into Prostitution:

Child Trafficking...Part 1 of 5:

Child Trafficking...Part 2 of 5:

Child Trafficking...Part 3 of 5:

Child Trafficking...Part 4 of 5:

Child Trafficking...Part 5 of 5:


Below is a small excerpt from "Unlocking Buried Secrets #2: Healing From Satanic Ritual Abuse Workbook for Male and Female Survivors" Part: 16 For Supporters Of Survivors


By Joseph Parker, Clinical Director

The Lola Greene Baldwin Foundation



Prostitution, pornography, and other forms of commercial sex are a

multibillion dollar industry. They enrich a small minority of predators, while

the larger community is left to pay for the damage.

People used in the sex industry often need medical care as a result of

the ever-present violence. They may need treatment for infectious diseases,

including AIDS. Survivors frequently need mental health care for posttraumatic

stress disorder, psychotic episodes and suicide attempts. About a

third end up chronically disabled and on Social Security.

The sex trade plays an active role in promoting alcohol and drug

problems. Pimps also use prostituted women in forgery and credit card

fraud. The community must pay for chemical dependency treatment,

insurance costs and incarceration.

In addition to these costs, the community loses the contributions

which might have been made to legitimate community productivity by those

used up in the sex industry.

The operators of sex businesses not only do not pay for these expenses,

many manage to avoid paying taxes at all.


No business can afford to create a product for which there are no

buyers. The first step in understanding the sex industry is to understand the

customers, the johns.

Real sexual relationships are not hard to find. There are plenty of

adults of both sexes who are willing to have sex if someone treats them

well, and asks. But there lies the problem. Some people do not want an


equal, sharing relationship. They do not want to be nice. They do not want

to ask. They like the power involved in buying a human being who can be

made to do almost anything.

The business of prostitution and pornography is the use of real human

beings to support the fantasies of others. Anyone working in prostitution

who tells a john too much about who they really are, interferes with the

fantasy. They risk losing a customer, and may get a beating as well. In real

relationships with real people, you are stuck with the limitations of who you

are, who your partner is, and what you can do together without hurting each


Some people do not want real relationships, or feel entitled to something

beyond the real relationships they have. They want to play "super

stud and sex slave" or whatever, inside their own heads. If they need to

support their fantasies with pictures, video tapes, or real people to abuse,

the sex trade is ready to supply them. For a price, they can be "a legend in

their own minds."

The most common type of prostitution customer is the user. He is

quite self-centered, and simply wants what he considers to be his needs


The user would deny any intent to harm anyone, and might even claim

some empathy for the sex workers he uses. However, his empathy does not

extend to discontinuing his using behavior, nor to helping anyone escape

from the sex industry. He does not care whether the person he is using is

unwilling or unusually vulnerable. He simply feels entitled to whatever he

wants, whenever he wants it. If someone is hurt, that is not his problem.

He feels that the fee he pays covers any damages.

He sees himself as a respectable person, and works to protect that

appearance. Users provide a large, safe, and steady income for the pimps

and other "businessmen," of the sex industry.

Sadists are people who have the ability to take pleasure in another

person's fear, pain, or humiliation. They constitute about ten percent of the

population. Sadists vary in severity, ranging from those who just make you

feel bad, on up to those who do torture murders. There is a definite practice

effect. If allowed to hurt people often, their sadism gets worse.


Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse by sadists drives their child

victims from their homes into the street, trying to escape. The pimps and

“chickenhawks” take it from there.

Sadists are attracted to prostituted women and children because they

are willing to get into a car or come to a place where the sadist can be in

control. Sadism is about control. Hurting people who cannot stop them is

their most intense and pleasurable form of control.

Sadists play close attention to matters of power. They are most brutal

with small women and children, and are more careful with larger women and

men. They avoid people who may have someone to protect them, or

someone who may take revenge on the victim's behalf.

There are pimps who specialize in supplying victims to sadists, and

who base their fees on the amount of damage done to the victim.

Sadists are found at all levels of society, including the respected and

powerful. They often use this, saying, "You are just a whore, nobody is

going to believe you." If they do kill someone, they are very aware that, to

some extent, the effort society puts into finding the killer will reflect the

value placed on the victim. People working in prostitution are safe victims.

Necrophiles are people who can take pleasure in filth, degradation,

and destruction. They are the users of the sick, the old, the psychotic, the

brain damaged, the "tracked" and tattooed casualties of the sex industry, in

the end stages of their lives. For necrophiles, broken bodies and broken

minds are a turn on. They glory in their superiority over ruined human

beings, and feel entitled to express their contempt in every way.

Necrophiles must keep their perversion secret from their friends and

families, both to protect their social standing, and to protect their fantasies

of superiority. Normal people just would not understand.

Child molesters participate in the sex industry in several ways.

Some have been aware of a sexual attraction to children, often of a particular

age and sex, from some time in late childhood. They then make the

choice to act on it.

Some have sadistic characteristics. Children are easier than adults to

control. The molester’s own children, in his own home, are the easiest of all

to control.


Necrophilic child molesters enjoy the knowledge that, when the

molesters are finished with them, the children's lives will never be the same.

They enjoy the fact that the children may later self-destruct in addiction,

prostitution or suicide. It proves that they were right.

Sex offenders against children operate with varying degrees of sophistication.

Some do careful "grooming." They use pornography to break down

resistance, and supply drugs, alcohol, and money. Others just start out with

forcible rape. Many claim unusual "love" for children. They claim that sex

between adults and children is not harmful, and should be legalized.

Pedophiles actually teach children that they are helpless, hopeless, worthless,

and only good for sex and hurting.

A large portion of workers in the sex trade started out as sexually

abused children. Some were even "broken in" by being shared with or

rented out to others by their own families.

There are specialist pimps who provide children to johns. The fees

vary depending on the age, sex and appearance of the child, as well as the

amount of damage the child has already incurred.

When caught, the pimps and johns claim not to have known the child's

real age. There is a market for small adults made up to look like children,

both for direct sex and for pornography. But the truth is in the fees: real

children sell for more than fake ones.

Prostitution buffs are like police and fire buffs, that is, people with

an intense interest in those occupations even though they do not belong to


Prostitution buffs are people with a morbid fascination for or obsession

with prostituted persons and their activities. Some characterize themselves

as "researchers", and amass hundreds of pages of notes and photographs,

that somehow are seldom published.

Others claim to be intent on religious redemption of "sinners", and

spend huge amounts of time in vice areas, but never quite manage to offer

anyone practical help.


A third group consists of “community livability" activists, who blame

the people being prostituted for the behavior of the johns, pimps, and drug


As with any obsession, with some people it may get out of control.

Police buffs may take unlawful police action, and some fire buffs eventually

set fires.

Each type of prostitution buff strongly believes his or her rationalizations

for their activities, and would vehemently deny any personal sexual

interest. The trouble is, it is obviously there. They show a lot of subtle

signs which may indicate to someone working in prostitution that they may

be potential customers.

When a prostituted person approaches the buff to offer their services,

the response may be unpredictable and dangerous. Sometimes the buffs

will accept their services, and the worker may never realize that they are

anything but a normal trick. At other times, they will be met with rage, as if

they are making a hetero- or homosexual attack on the buff. They may be

beaten, knifed, or thrown out of a moving vehicle.

Most of the "research" and "religious" buffs are men, and spend

enough time studying their subject that their identifications of who is and is

not prostituting are fairly accurate.

Many of the "community livability" activists are women. Some may

pepper spray or draw weapons on young people who are in no way involved,

but who fit whatever stereotype the activist has for what a prostitute should

look like.



Three forces generate streams of customers for prostitution: Isolation,

sexual abandonment, and unusual interests. Prostituted people are

used to service populations which are physically isolated from the life of their

communities. These customers come from military bases, logging or mining

camps, and from farm labor camps. Operators of these facilities often are

involved in arranging for services through local pimps.

Other customers are isolated by travel, such as seamen, truckers, and

traveling businessmen. Hotels and motel, bars and other businesses which


provide support services for travelers often also participate in arrangements

for sexual services.

In some religious cultures, and some individual family cultures, sex is

regarded as an unpleasant duty of marriage, and once the child bearing

years are over, one partner may cut the other off from sexual activity. The

sex industry does not reach out to middle-aged women, so their only choice

is to have affairs. This may be morally unacceptable to them, or eligible

partners may not be available. For them, there may be no solution.

For men, prostitution is quite available, and many men may see it as

less wrong than having affairs, or as requiring less effort. These men

provide a large and steady income for the sex industry.

Most of these johns would be classified as “users”, and an unclear

proportion of them might not be prostitution customers if they were not


Customers who remain in or near their home communities are more

likely to use prostituted people due to unusual interests, such as sadism,

pedophilia, or sexual addiction. They are isolated by the nature of their

desires, rather than their location. For example, men who prefer sex with

boys, but who do not view themselves as homosexual, support a whole

segment of the industry involving prostituted males. It is unclear whether

local law enforcement efforts, or the openness and aggressiveness with

which with the sex industry is allowed to operate in a community, affects the

stream of “special interest” customers.

A large portion of prostituted people are also used in and around he

communities where they grew up. The fact that survivors often meet

previous tricks in local grocery stores and other random places can be a

considerable problem for their recovery.

For those whose special interests place them at serious legal risk in

their own community, there is sex tourism. Some cities in the US are well

known to run more 'wide open' than others, that is, there are fewer and

weaker laws on the books, and police and other officials are discouraged

from enforcing them. These conditions are often the result of cooperation

between business and elected officials, who are repaid by the sex industry in

various ways.



No one really wants to have sex with five, ten, or twenty strangers a

day, every day. Besides the sheer numbers involved, some of those strangers

are going to use a person in ways that are bizarre, painful, disgusting,

and occasionally fatal.

When people who have worked in prostitution call it repeated rape,

they are not exaggerating or being "hysterical." They are being legally

precise. Rape is sexual intercourse, against the will of the victim, carried out

by threat or force.

In prostitution, the john performs the sex act with the unwilling victim,

but subcontracts the intimidation and violence to another man, the pimp.

The john would like to believe he is paying for sex, but the person he

has sex with gets little or none of the money. The money goes to the pimp

to pay for the force needed to keep prostituted women and children working.

It goes to the drug dealer who provides whatever it takes to keep the

workers from becoming psychotic or committing suicide. It goes to pay the

businessmen who provide the real estate, support services, and legal

protection for the trade.

Pimps come in three general types. Media pimping, like other kinds,

involves selling fantasies that ultimately hurt people. Two of their central

lies are that women are only good for sex, and men are only good for


They claim that they produce sex and violence because that is all that

sells. In fact, many other things sell as well or better. (For example, Walt

Disney and Steven Spielberg productions often are very successful.) Media

pimps often have a tremendous sense of superiority over "common" people,

yet lack the intelligence and creativity to do high quality work. They very

much enjoy selling a degraded view of the human race.

Advertisers often implicitly promise that buying their products will

bring happiness, power, and sexual success. After spending their money,

the victims of this "bait and switch" scam find that they get only a pack of

cigarettes, a bottle of shampoo, or a magazine full of dirty pictures. They

are just as lonely and unhappy as before, but their money is gone.


Media pimps perform another "bait and switch" function, in cooperation

with business level pimps. They attract young people hoping for fame

and fortune in the legitimate entertainment business, and manipulate them

into the lower levels of the sex industry.

They degrade ordinary people living ordinary lives, by showing only

idealized characters with perfect bodies, high powered jobs, and plenty of

money. The characters’ problems are always solved in an hour or two, with

a liberal application of sex and violence.

Real people, whose lives cannot hope to measure up to these "ideals”,

are made to feel inferior and worthless. The media pimps work to divert

people from the ups and downs of real life, into dependence on the fantasy

worlds that they sell. The sex industry, above all, sells fantasy regardless of

who gets hurt.

The media pimps have a lot of money. They own magazines and

newspapers, and produce movies and television programs. They can afford

to hire law firms and advertising agencies to further their interests. Their

money can buy access to political officials, and special treatment for their

businesses. In return they offer favorable media exposure, and large campaign


Their money often goes to support various front organizations which

work to direct public discussion toward "free speech rights," and away from

the damaging effects of the sex industry on the women and children used in


Business level pimps extract profits from the sex industry in ways

that minimize the risk of public exposure or criminal prosecution.

They own the bars and strip clubs which attract concentrations of

potential johns. They offer jobs as dancers and hostesses to vulnerable

young people who are potential candidates for more direct use in the sex

trade. They own the adult book stores, massage parlors, motels, and legal


They posture as legitimate businessmen, conceal their ownership

behind corporations and front men, and deny knowing that their property is

being used in the sex industry. They charge sex businesses far higher rents

and fees than they could get from legitimate tenants, which indicates that

they know what the businesses are doing.


Through contacts in the business community, they arrange for sexual

services for visiting businessmen, politicians, celebrities, and sports teams.

By keeping these arrangements secret, business pimps insure a degree of

protection for their other activities from their customers in high places.

Business level pimps separate themselves from the "dirty workers" of

the sex trade by treating them as independent contractors rather than

employees. This enables them to avoid having to pay taxes, overtime pay,

health insurance, and workmen's comp. If one of the workers is arrested,

the businessman is protected from any legal involvement. They subcontract

any violence needed to the street level pimps.

With support from elements of the "legitimate" entertainment industry,

as well as street level pimps, they produce and distribute commercial


They support and have the support of "civil liberties" advocates, who

oppose censorship regardless of the harm done to the people used in making

the pornography. They disclaim any responsibility for the actions of potentially

violent sex offenders who use pornography to “fuel” their fantasies

until they are ready to commit actual violence.

Business pimps often join civic organizations, make highly public

contributions to charity, and play a role in local politics. They continually

assert their identity as legitimate businessmen. When threatened, they call

on the support of the real, legitimate, non-sex business community, often


Unlike street level pimps, the businessmen usually manage to hold

onto their profits. They have investment skills, can afford lawyers, seldom

are addicted, and rarely take the risks involved in garden variety crime.

Often the greatest danger they face is from the Internal Revenue Service,

not from the police.

Street level pimps are the foot soldiers of the sex industry. Typically,

they are small time criminals, who have a high need for sadistic gratification.

The johns and business level pimps subcontract to these men the

brainwashing, terror, beatings, and the occasional murder needed to keep

prostituted women and children working.


Pimps are part of the business even where prostitution is legal.

Brothels do not run employment ads. The brothel owners require that any

new “employee” be “referred” by someone ready to supply whatever force is

necessary to control the woman.

Street pimps learn the business from friends and relatives already in

the business, from other criminals in jails and prisons, and from other pimps

they meet hanging out in the bars and clubs. Occasionally, someone

especially talented in greed and cruelty learns the trade solely by practicing

on available victims.

Pimps tend to avoid identifying themselves as such, except to other

pimps. They like to present themselves as husbands, boyfriends, or protectors.

When caught in acts of violence, they try to prevent outside interference

by claiming that it is "only a domestic matter." In fact, the pimps

themselves are the greatest danger to those they exploit. The johns and

the police are lesser hazards.

Street pimps pride themselves on their finesse, on controlling their

victims by psychological manipulation. They claim that prostituted women

and children give their money to the pimps because they "love" them. (In

criminal language, "She loves me" means "I can control her.") Street pimps

try to play down their use of threats and violence, despite the fact that it is

their biggest contribution to the sex industry.

Throughout human history there has been the kind of greed that takes

the form of wanting to own other human beings. Slavery died out in most

areas because it was unprofitable compared to more modern methods of

production. The one trade where the would-be slaver can still find success is

in the sex industry. For many pimps, the gratification of owning slaves is as

important as the drugs and the money.

Contrary to the images in the media, most pimps exploit members of

their own race. Many are nearly the same age as their victims.

Most pimps are male. Women are becoming more and more involved

as active operators in the sex industry. Some are involved in helping a male

pimp to control his "stable," or act as madams in brothels owned by someone

else. Some run "escort" or out-call services themselves, but maintain

relationships through which they can call on male enforcers when needed.


Occasionally women are involved in supplying their own children to

pedophiles, pornographers, or others in the sex industry. The mother's own

addiction is the usual cause. Plain greed for money, and the mother's own

sexual perversity are less common motivations.

Street level pimps usually spend their money on clothes, jewelry, cars,

and especially on their own addictions. They often are involved in other

types of crime, especially drug dealing, and may go to prison for those.

Successful prosecution for pimping itself is quite unusual.

It is rare for a street pimp to hold onto his money and make the

transition to a business level operator, but there always are a few at the

business level who got their start as street pimps.



The sex industry ultimately is about power. This is best demonstrated

by the care which the industry takes to ensure that those it uses are

powerless. The predators are neither irrational nor stupid. They watch

carefully for a kind of "victim profile," and avoid anyone who may be uncontrollable

or dangerous.

They focus on young people coming out of families that are abusive,

disorganized, or non-existent. One fundamental function of the family is

protection of its members, especially its children. The family also is a team,

and all players must do their jobs. If a member is lost or disabled, others in

the extended family or community must step in to carry on. When one or

more adults in a family are absent, addicted, mentally ill, or severely

demoralized, the children are in danger.

When the family is poor, or part of a devalued minority group, and

opportunities for education and good jobs are limited, some members of

those families may be willing to take risks. If the young people are being

terrorized, beaten, or sexually abused by the very people who should be

protecting them, many are going to take their chances on the street. For

some, nude dancing or even prostitution may look better than no job at all.

If they are under age, have no address, or cannot afford to have their

parents involved, most social service agencies will not help them. Children

are still treated as some adults' property.


The juvenile system has little interest in noncriminal runaways or

"throwaways." There are age requirements for normal jobs, usually between

14 and 18 years of age. The very young are practically forced into the sex

industry, even before the pimps and johns get involved. They may have to

do prostitution from age 12 or 14, until they turn 18, and can get a "better

job" such as nude dancing.

There are three general patterns for "breaking" someone into prostitution.

In slave taking, a young male predator "befriends" a victim long

enough to be sure she is not dangerous herself, nor protected by anyone

who is. He manipulates her into a situation where she can be kidnapped and

held in isolation in a place the slaver and his friends control. Over a prolonged

period, she is terrorized, tortured, and gang raped. She is threatened

with her own death, and that of anyone she loves.

Once she is convinced that her only chance of survival is to do exactly

as she is told, she is "turned out." Her first "trick" may in fact be a member

of the prostitution organization, set up to make sure she performs as

directed. After she has been properly "seasoned," she is put to work for her

captors, or sold to another pimp.

The domestic violence transition targets young people coming out

of abusive homes who are emotionally needy, and have no real idea of what

a normal love relationship looks like. They become involved with a "boyfriend"

who initially treats them better than they have ever experienced

before. The boyfriend gradually becomes extremely controlling, and eventually

violent. He introduces commercial sex in terms of his pressing need for

money, and "If you love me, you will do this." He quickly transitions from

"just this once" into “You are just a whore, my whore!” and requiring daily

prostitution. He continues controlling the victim with alternating emotional

manipulation and explosive violence, while living on her earnings, for as long

as she lasts.

The "grooming" process is used by older and more sophisticated

predators, and is especially used on younger children. These perpetrators

become adept at identifying abused, neglected, and depressed children, and

"befriending" them. They develop a "special" relationship, one that isolates

the child from others, and makes the child feel indebted to the groomer.


Slowly, resistance is broken down, using gifts, money, alcohol, drugs,

and pornography. In the sex industry, pornography is not only a profitable

product, it also is a working tool.

They engage the child in progressively more direct sex, and begin to

merge the abuse into the child’s identity: “You want this”, “You like this”,

“You make it happen”, “Now you are dirty, perverted, queer”. These

predators often are only interested in children of a specific age or appearance.

When they develop beyond that, the kids may be passed off to

pedophiles interested in older children. Being suddenly “dumped” for no

understandable reason often is very painful for the child.

Over a lifetime these predators may victimize an incredibly large

number of children. The emotional damage they do leaves a child even

more isolated and vulnerable to further involvement in the sex industry.



The experience of prostitution is remarkably similar for males and

females, but there are some differences.

Most young men used in prostitution are heterosexual. They are

drawn into the sex industry by many of the same forces as are women.

Many johns consider themselves straight, and claim that only the prostituted

young male is gay. Those used in male-on-male prostitution often are left

with tremendous confusion about their actual sexual orientation. When

trying to escape “the life”, they may encounter all the prejudices encountered

by gays, in addition to the stigma of prostitution. They are at higher

risk of HIV than prostituted women.

Rape and sexual slavery are common in jails and prisons. There is

considerable public support for it as a normal part of the punishment. Some

of those who run institutions do their best to maintain a safe and controlled

environment. They may be hampered by outdated, hard to supervise

buildings and lack of staff. Others may care very little about what inmates

do to each other.

Inmates who go to staff for protection often end up in protective

custody which is practically the same as disciplinary isolation. The response

of convicts toward “snitches” ranges from abusive to deadly.


Almost all of these traumatized men eventually are released. Many

dissolve into alcohol and drug dependence, or are disabled by psychological

symptoms. Others wander the streets, intoxicated, armed, and ready to

react explosively to any threat of harm or humiliation.

Women used in prostitution usually have children sooner or later.

Mothers who cannot protect themselves rarely can protect their children. In

the endless whirl of sex, drugs and violence, the children may be neglected,

traumatized, or even become merchandise in the sex industry themselves.

One of the most painful events in the life of prostitution is losing custody of

children, regardless of how good the reasons for that loss may be.

Most prostituted women want very much to be good mothers, often

trying to give their children the love and care they never received themselves.

The birth of a “trick baby”, that is, one fathered by some unknown

john, produces very complicated feelings. Some mothers can separate their

feeling for the baby from the anger at the way the baby was conceived, but

others cannot. Some “trick babies” are given up for adoption by mothers

who fear that they otherwise might abuse them.

If the baby was fathered by a pimp, or is at least claimed to be in

official records, the courts may fail to recognize, or ignore, the real nature of

the relationship. The pimp may be given visitation rights or even custody.

This gives the pimp a new person to threaten and a new means of controlling

the mother. It makes escaping from the sex industry even harder than

it already is.

Both male and female survivors of prostitution usually develop a

tremendous hatred of men, especially those in authority. They hate both for

the actual harm done, and for the help that was not given when it was

terribly needed.



The larger society provides the pimps with a very powerful weapon. It

makes prostitution an identity, not an occupation. Once you have taken

money for sex, you are a prostitute. Society does not allow an expiration

date on that identity, nor a way to be publicly accepted as something else.


Society offers help to people in trouble largely based on the value set

on that person. It is much easier to get help for a married, middle class,

domestic violence victim, than for a refugee from the sex industry trying to

escape from a pimp.

Many people prefer to view prostitution as a "lifestyle choice," or even

an "addiction" to a lifestyle. They think most people in the sex industry are

there to support their drug habits, when actually the drugs are used to cope

with what is happening to their lives. Society assumes that nothing can be

done to help them, so there is no need to try. The pimps count on it.

Being trapped, under the control of violent and merciless men, without

hope of outside help, sets the stage for Stockholm Syndrome. When the

victim cannot successfully fight or flee, she may try to form a protective

relationship with her captor. She hopes that if she can prove her love and

loyalty to the pimp, she can “love” him into being good. This can become

such a desperate attachment that she actually believes she loves him, and

passes up chances to escape. Stockholm Syndrome often is the real reason

for what others see as the “choice” to stay in the sex industry.

Prostitution and the drug trade go hand in hand. Customers for sex

often are buyers for drugs also. Many pimps are supporting their own

habits, and dealing drugs as well.

The pimps consider drugs and alcohol a cost of doing business.

Without the chemicals, their "livestock" may become psychotic or commit

suicide. In addition to the brainwashing and violence, addiction provides a

form of control. Drugs also produce isolation from people who otherwise

might try to protect a victim or help her escape. The only creature less

worthy of help than a prostitute, is an addicted prostitute.

The health effects of prostitution are devastating. Prostitution,

especially in childhood, is at least as effective as war in producing posttraumatic

stress disorder. Survivors usually have some combination of

depression, anxiety, and dissociative disorders. Brain damage, psychosis,

and suicide are common. Long term psychiatric disability, serious medical

illness, and the effects of accumulating injuries shorten lives.



People who have had luckier lives, as well as those who profit from the

sex industry in some way, frequently refer to prostitution and pornography


as “victim-less crimes”. They point to a tiny fraction of sex workers who

actually might be involved by choice. They selectively read history to find

some tiny minority, somewhere, at some time, who gained something in the

sex business.

The very selectiveness of their attention indicates that, on some level,

they know that for almost everyone, involvement in the sex industry is a

terrible misfortune.

As many an old cop will say, “Anyone who thinks prostitution is a

victimless crime, hasn’t seen it up close.”




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Copyright 1998, Joe Parker